In a world defined by the amount of pain given, we live, carrying the burdens of everything that's around us and wishing it had never been too late. Well, of course all of us had had their own share of drama or pain and you could be struggling through them now, this post is just for you! I like to get back to a comparison between an optimist and a pessimist, as they both look at a glass half filled with water. Now, I'm not saying you should be an optimist nor a pessimist, I'm just using this example to see how people look at their lives, we all have the right to be pessimists about stuff going on with our lives, it's true, but I wish it wouldn't be all the time. However, looking at the bright side is like looking at the glass, half-filled, which probably means that there are two faces to everything that goes on with your life, an excellent arrangement from God above, a perfect timing for everything and a wonderful experience to be gained from each step. Pain isn't just about getting hurt or losing a close friend or even a relative. You know what they say, no pain no gain, again I'm not saying that pain IS necessary to gain but I'm talking to the majority here, people who are in pain. Yes, you. It's crazy how we, teenagers, or even adults, just isolate ourselves from whatever's surrounding us just because we're in pain. As an 18-yo teenager, I find a lot of girls who humiliate themselves just because some drama that's going with a friend of hers, nope, I'm not a big fan of dramatic statuses on Facebook or even tweets, in fact, I'm not a big fan if drama at all. This is when we get to know that pain was made for us TO LEARN. Pain is found to build. Pain is gained to frame us into human beings who are able to adjust their lives and be flexible.
I've been through a lot myself, like death or even some girlish drama and before I knew that I could use all this to my own good, I used to be that overly-dramatic guy who'd just listen to The Beatles all the time and whenever that song:'Hey Jude' plays and the singer starts to say La la la---, I'd just start crying because a girl dumped me. Haha. Not much of a cool experience, huh? That was years before I started to realize how important AND HOW POSSIBLE it is to reverse everything you think is causing you pain, into something more beautiful and something more encouraging for you to move forward and more powerful.
There are TWO KINDS of people. Those who learn. Those who don't. To those who don't learn, it's never too late, okay? But let me warn you about surrendering to pain and doing the exact same thing I did when that girl dumped me, it will just make it worse for you. It will make you even more vulnerable to more pain and whenever more pain comes the more you hate your life. I don't think that's the way most people want their lives to be right? Like who wants their lives to be living hell when in fact you can just craft it into a masterpiece if your own. Struggling, it's normal, absolutely, we're not robots! Again, we have feelings, we feel, we cry, we get in pain, we cause pain but we never learnt how to gain.
To gain is to accept. Yes, to accept whatever that's going with your life and be convinced that it's God who put it right there for you but remember God never wanted you to be in pain in the first place, you were actually made to learn but we were deviated away from this to see the pain. To see that the glass was half-empty and that we're just going to be exposed to more and more pain. You're in a lab called 'yourself' provided with the material to create 'your life' and pain is one essential constituents of life, if you're not going to use it as something more as a 'catalyst' as to accelerate that process of yours, you'll end up with pain in your life, unused, always there, reminding you of why you shouldn't enjoy life. You have EVERY SINGLE RIGHT to enjoy that kind of living you are having right now in your place because I'm not better than you, I promise, I'm not! I could be even a lot worse than you, who knows? We just know that life has knocked me hard than ever and caused me pain I never thought I'd be able to get rid of it and I know what most of you are saying right now of how young I am to be writing that kind of stuff and not being fully aware of life itself, but I wouldn't been encouraged to write this blog if it hadn't been for the things I've had in my life, try not to fool yourself and it's not of your concern because fooling yourself is the first step to not having a better life. Pain came to me and I accepted it with open arms, and if I could it, you can too!
So we reached a way of how we should use pain and how we can actually receive and accept it in our lives, but can we do it? Most likely, not. But, yes, you can. As long as you have a pumping heart, then yes you can. Again, it's a decision-like of matter, something happened, someone died or even you just feel like crying and then it comes to your brain to think about it and your brain goes like:'Owh, here comes the pain, let's sit down and cry' or even 'Oh my pain, let's sleep!'. It's true it's true! The funny thing is that we actually allow our brain to say that kinda stuff and yes it's our brain so we should be able to control what it says and how it circulates but instead we'd just allow these ways to come in our way. The way I like it is how my brain goes:' Oh my gosh, pain? Let's see what we can get out of it'. Oh my! Yes! Exactly! Almost all kinds of pain are there for you to learn new stuff and to be made stronger in your life because if you're going to give 100% of your strength into ignoring your pain and denying it, it will haunt you down. Remember. HAUNT. YOU. DOWN. That was freaky huh? It was meant to be because there's no other way I can bring it down to you people of how we should give in at least 10% of our strength into learning and gaining from our pain. The 10% will go up as you move forwards with your life and as long as you're breathing, the 10% will soon be the 100%.
I don't know what you're going through, whether it's emotional or social but I do know that you can give in 10% of your effort into getting something out of this pain. I do believe that with just one decision and one order to your brain which has extraordinary power to face what you're going through, I believe that you can give yourself something good out of what you're going through. I believe you're having a tough time in your life, aren't we all?, but uhm, this tough time will be THANKED LATER ON for creating the being you will be BUT ONLY IF you take the decision that pain is made to be accepted and gained.
