A world of pain.

   In a world defined by the amount of pain given, we live, carrying the burdens of everything that's around us and wishing it had never been too late. Well, of course all of us had had their own share of drama or pain and you could be struggling through them now, this post is just for you! I like to get back to a comparison between an optimist and a pessimist, as they both look at a glass half filled with water. Now, I'm not saying you should be an optimist nor a pessimist, I'm just using this example to see how people look at their lives, we all have the right to be pessimists about stuff going on with our lives, it's true, but I wish it wouldn't be all the time. However, looking at the bright side is like looking at the glass, half-filled, which probably means that there are two faces to everything that goes on with your life, an excellent arrangement from God above, a perfect timing for everything and a wonderful experience to be gained from each step. Pain isn't just about getting hurt or losing a close friend or even a relative. You know what they say, no pain no gain, again I'm not saying that pain IS necessary to gain but I'm talking to the majority here, people who are in pain. Yes, you. It's crazy how we, teenagers, or even adults, just isolate ourselves from whatever's surrounding us just because we're in pain. As an 18-yo teenager, I find a lot of girls who humiliate themselves just because some drama that's going with a friend of hers, nope, I'm not a big fan of dramatic statuses on Facebook or even tweets, in fact, I'm not a big fan if drama at all. This is when we get to know that pain was made for us TO LEARN. Pain is found to build. Pain is gained to frame us into human beings who are able to adjust their lives and be flexible.


   I've been through a lot myself, like death or even some girlish drama and before I knew that I could use all this to my own good, I used to be that overly-dramatic guy who'd just listen to The Beatles all the time and whenever that song:'Hey Jude' plays and the singer starts to say La la la---, I'd just start crying because a girl dumped me. Haha. Not much of a cool experience, huh? That was years before I started to realize how important AND HOW POSSIBLE it is to reverse everything you think is causing you pain, into something more beautiful and something more encouraging for you to move forward and more powerful.


   There are TWO KINDS of people. Those who learn. Those who don't. To those who don't learn, it's never too late, okay? But let me warn you about surrendering to pain and doing the exact same thing I did when that girl dumped me, it will just make it worse for you. It will make you even more vulnerable to more pain and whenever more pain comes the more you hate your life. I don't think that's the way most people want their lives to be right? Like who wants their lives to be living hell when in fact you can just craft it into a masterpiece if your own. Struggling, it's normal, absolutely, we're not robots! Again, we have feelings, we feel, we cry, we get in pain, we cause pain but we never learnt how to gain.

   To gain is to accept. Yes, to accept whatever that's going with your life and be convinced that it's God who put it right there for you but remember God never wanted you to be in pain in the first place, you were actually made to learn but we were deviated away from this to see the pain. To see that the glass was half-empty and that we're just going to be exposed to more and more pain. You're in a lab called 'yourself' provided with the material to create 'your life' and pain is one essential constituents of life, if you're not going to use it as something more as a 'catalyst' as to accelerate that process of yours, you'll end up with pain in your life, unused, always there, reminding you of why you shouldn't enjoy life. You have EVERY SINGLE RIGHT to enjoy that kind of living you are having right now in your place because I'm not better than you, I promise, I'm not! I could be even a lot worse than you, who knows? We just know that life has knocked me hard than ever and caused me pain I never thought I'd be able to get rid of it and I know what most of you are saying right now of how young I am to be writing that kind of stuff and not being fully aware of life itself, but I wouldn't been encouraged to write this blog if it hadn't been for the things I've had in my life, try not to fool yourself and it's not of your concern because fooling yourself is the first step to not having a better life. Pain came to me and I accepted it with open arms, and if I could it, you can too!


   So we reached a way of how we should use pain and how we can actually receive and accept it in our lives, but can we do it? Most likely, not. But, yes, you can. As long as you have a pumping heart, then yes you can. Again, it's a decision-like of matter, something happened, someone died or even you just feel like crying and then it comes to your brain to think about it and your brain goes like:'Owh, here comes the pain, let's sit down and cry' or even 'Oh my pain, let's sleep!'. It's true it's true! The funny thing is that we actually allow our brain to say that kinda stuff and yes it's our brain so we should be able to control what it says and how it circulates but instead we'd just allow these ways to come in our way. The way I like it is how my brain goes:' Oh my gosh, pain? Let's see what we can get out of it'. Oh my! Yes! Exactly! Almost all kinds of pain are there for you to learn new stuff and to be made stronger in your life because if you're going to give 100% of your strength into ignoring your pain and denying it, it will haunt you down. Remember. HAUNT. YOU. DOWN. That was freaky huh? It was meant to be because there's no other way I can bring it down to you people of how we should give in at least 10% of our strength into learning and gaining from our pain. The 10% will go up as you move forwards with your life and as long as you're breathing, the 10% will soon be the 100%.


   I don't know what you're going through, whether it's emotional or social but I do know that you can give in 10% of your effort into getting something out of this pain. I do believe that with just one decision and one order to your brain which has extraordinary power to face what you're going through, I believe that you can give yourself something good out of what you're going through. I believe you're having a tough time in your life, aren't we all?, but uhm, this tough time will be THANKED LATER ON for creating the being you will be BUT ONLY IF you take the decision that pain is made to be accepted and gained.

Am I fit?

   Yes, you are. In a world where each one of us competes to become better than the other, we often misunderstand the word 'fit'. Haven't we all had this thought, like, when we feel down and hit rock bottom, a hopeless scream comes out from the inside with might and power? What follows this scream is usually something called 'self esteem failure' or as I like to call it 'crap'. Yep, you're most probably screwed, unless you change the whole idea of becoming fit for life. Do you even mean what getting fit for life means? Do you know how to make yourself more capable for living? Do you know how to maintain a steady ongoing life? Did you know that, so far, you have never been so wrong?


   Exactly, you're wrong. Before you keep on reading, I want you to think about your own life for a second here and tell yourself what you've got and what you haven't. Tell yourself what you've got that makes you fit to live and what doesn't. Tell yourself what you haven't got and what you're missing to be fit for life. Don't you even dare say:'I got all what it takes to live. I got nothing missing', that's when you know there's one tiny detail. Is it money you're looking for? Is it health? Is it love? Is it success? Is it perfection? I mean, we often run away looking for these things but we never really get the whole picture. Back in my school, in economy classes, we had this term:'Increasing variety', if you thought about it, it's about something that changes and occupies much more needs that it used to. Basically, this term means that we, humans, will never be able to achieve every single need. Our needs change, and as we grow up, our needs grow up too! No matter how much money you've got, if you hoped to get one million dollars and you did, BAM, you go for the second. No matter what phone you've got, BAM, you want a newer model. And it goes on, you know why we do this? I say it's because others do. We tend to look at others to imitate, you've got a fine car but right next to you, your neighbour owns a better one and fancier. I'm not talking about jealousy here, I'm talking about what you'd think when you see your neighbour's car, wouldn't you go like:'I should get this car, I can save for it', I mean a normal person would because your neighbour lives in the same block, same street, which makes you both as equal in your social position then you start with all the 'Why shouldn't I' questions.

   It's so sad how we throw our sight at others instead of staring at our own. Excuse me, hello, you got a fine car, a cool phone and a suitable house. Why would you compare? This is when your life comes crashing, when you compare. When you think that you'd become a better person just because someone got better gears than you so you'd better get those gears, no, not at all! The worst thing you can do to yourself is relating yourself to others, to think that someone else controls your life and to let their actions lead you to what THEY think is right. What I see here is an ox tied to some kind of ropes here. Let me ask you this, if you ever compared yourself to others, and I'm sure most of you did, how'd you feel? He/She is better or even you're better. But how was it like? Did you feel bad? Good? You felt like you're on top of the world or licking its ground? I just can't see how that can help you. This is completely normal, you guys, we were born with this instinct. We were used to it since we were kids, with our toys and always asking for more. And now, as grown ups, increasing variety, remember? 

   Let's go back to the first paragraph again, I quote:' In a world where each one of us competes to become better than the other,'.  
Yes, this is the kind of world we live in, and most, if not all, of us live by this code to become better than a certain person. You know what? Let me rephrase, you want to live someone else's life because you hate your life THAT much. Man, if you'd just understand what your life means here down on earth, if you'd know that you were made and created for a purpose that overwhelms your mind, if you'd understand just how valuable your life can be BY YOU! Again let me rephrase after quoting, WE SHOULD LIVE IN A WORLD WHERE EACH ONE COMPETES TO BECOME BETTER. Period. 



   So before you go all wild about peoples' lives, go wild about yours and dare yourself to become a better person, to become someone new and much more capable than the old you. To realise the fact that the only person you should compare yourself to is the OLD YOU, and the only one you should look at to imitate is you, you were granted a gift, your life, it's like the raw material for some kind of product, a unique product, a product that doesn't look like any other product, something of your own, it's not a competition, it's not who wins the race first, it's not who becomes the best above all others. It's about who becomes the first within himself and wins the race that runs inside of him, it's about changing the way you look at yourself and to start appreciating what you've got. Remember, the only life-lesson teacher there is out there is the old you! When you get to understand all of this, you can proudly answer the question of this post. And if you still don't know the answer, scroll up, read the first words again. 

New Year,Same You. -Christmas post

   Probably,we all started the new year, 2014, with new different resolutions of how we could be better people and face our life challenges but have we ever thought about how we actually want to spend this new year? Well of course you want to be fit this year, you might want to lose some weight, work out, or even start looking for a life partner but honestly, have you thought about finding 'YOU'? 

   As deep as this question could be, its answer is pretty simple. I've always told you guys that all the answers you're looking for are found in you by you and some of us are probably looking around and wondering why we're not with some new year's resolutions. Truth is, we all have resolutions, we just don't know them yet. You think you figured out life that you're not looking forward to anything but living, this is when you need to fix yourself. As long as you're breathing, you need something to cling to, you need something to be attached to or fill this vast space you have within yourself. I've always tried to fool myself that I can be on my own in this life, and I've never been so wrong. Can't you feel this? I mean like, one day you're fine and the other you're just devastated? Like you've been so happy but all of sudden you're just overwhelmed by grief? I don't blame you, it happens to all of us, but you can't point fingers to everything happening to you, most of us can't accept the idea of 'accepting' itself. To accept a life, to accept what's happening and keep moving on. An amazing saying I've heard and really like it that says:'Life is an upside down-School, it gives you tests first, then the lessons.'  Can you do this? Most of us just collapse after the first test but you know, it's not only one test, there are more headed your way and unless you learn your lessons by heart, you'll keep failing the coming tests. If you're reading this now, I want to tell you that you have unbelievable consistency inside of you and only you decide to let it out or suppress it. Those who suppress it, are probably the same. Those who let it out are the ones who learn and change. A simple answer. 

    What does that have to do with The New Year? Everything. Then why did I name it 'New Year Same You'?  Well, I'm trying to address the majority here. It breaks my heart how such beautiful and amazing teenagers, or even older people, could be so careless with their lives and decide to go with the flow. In fact, and don't deny it, we all reached this summit of our lives and to the extent that we decided to let go of everything and run away. I strongly believe that everything starts IN YOU! And the way you want to stir up things in your life is hidden in you because, as humans, we tend to ignore what's in the inside and look for what's on the outside. If you let yourself to be dragged by outward appearances, you'll lose the true meaning of the inward essence, yourself. The only reason I'm talking like this is for you to understand how valuable you are to yourself and how you should cherish what you own and be thankful. Even if you think you've got nothing left in this world, I'm telling you, no, you have everything you need to live. You have every reason to be happy, and you have every cause to make you smile. You have something in yourself that nobody else does, and if you want to know it, read the first word of this sentence. Yes, You. You have your happiness, your grief, your tears, your thinking, your life! It's all you! It's all decided by you and it's all provided to you with carefulness, why are you doing this to yourself? You can't see yourself but I will let you imagine yourself being offered two cars. A Mercedes and a BMW. You want to know what you chose? Neither. You decided to walk. 'Oh no, I can't be that stupid!' Oh yes, you are! Relax, you won't be after 2 minutes, it's simple, all you've got to do is just make a decision. And if you think life is so tough and so big to make decisions, you're wrong again. 

   I'm not trying to be inspirational or just throw in some words, but I'm honestly telling you how life really is and how you can amazingly lead yourself to cross your limits. This is it, it's like you're tying to beat your own record and every time you try, you're a step closer to finding out how beautiful it feels like to let yourself out of yourself. I want you to remember that you're the paper on which your life will be painted and if you let it get dirty or cut, your painting won't be so beautiful after all. Preserve it, make a decision, live and move on. 

   Bottom line? Everyday is a new year, but only if you decide, everyday is a new start. Everyday is a new beginning with a beautiful end. You have to know that deep inside you're beautiful and this is how beautiful you see what's on the outside. A decision will start your life and another will end it. A decision will make you move forward and begin from the inside to decide, is it a New Year?